Friendships, ain't they strange.
A friend is using her blog to vert at the moment about how much of a tasteless bridezilla a friend of hers is, as a bridesmaid she is first in line fro the ugly side of weddingyness on the brides side i think.
It was interesting that people assumed she didn't like the bride and she has had to go as far as to point out she wouldn't have said yes to being a bridesmaid if she didn't. I get it, i really do.
Nik and I are good friends, we really care about each other, but it didn't start out that way, she hated me and i was oblivious at first and then confused and then wanted to sort it because we were flat sharing. We got it figured out in the end and built a freindship, but we'd started with hostility.
Recently, this is ten years on keep in mind, we were both part of one of those silly email conversations between a group of people with varying degrees of knowing each other. We carried on as normal with teasing and name calling and silliness, then someone replied asking what was up and were we both ok, why the hostility, we were both like WTF? hostile? we aren't hostile unless we are throwing things, and only then if they are heavy or sharp, we pay no attention to each others comments unless there are at least 4 exclamations !!! is fun, !!!!!!!! means OI! lol, and we were both sitting in different parts of the country wondering why someone who didn't know me and had never seen us together thought we were upset with each other. Funny to see a freindship fromt he outside, just shows how easy it is to misinterpret. So, T, while I think your friend has no class or style I know you want to do the best to meet her requests and give her the day she wants. You rock.
It was interesting that people assumed she didn't like the bride and she has had to go as far as to point out she wouldn't have said yes to being a bridesmaid if she didn't. I get it, i really do.
Nik and I are good friends, we really care about each other, but it didn't start out that way, she hated me and i was oblivious at first and then confused and then wanted to sort it because we were flat sharing. We got it figured out in the end and built a freindship, but we'd started with hostility.
Recently, this is ten years on keep in mind, we were both part of one of those silly email conversations between a group of people with varying degrees of knowing each other. We carried on as normal with teasing and name calling and silliness, then someone replied asking what was up and were we both ok, why the hostility, we were both like WTF? hostile? we aren't hostile unless we are throwing things, and only then if they are heavy or sharp, we pay no attention to each others comments unless there are at least 4 exclamations !!! is fun, !!!!!!!! means OI! lol, and we were both sitting in different parts of the country wondering why someone who didn't know me and had never seen us together thought we were upset with each other. Funny to see a freindship fromt he outside, just shows how easy it is to misinterpret. So, T, while I think your friend has no class or style I know you want to do the best to meet her requests and give her the day she wants. You rock.
posted by Hageltoast at 8:03 am
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As I said to T, I had just noticed that she never actually stated that she wanted to be in the wedding. In fact, she still hasn't offered up any affection towards the bride, opting instead to say that not going is not an option. That's their thing.
As for the online thing, it is funny because you (I, they) always have a lot of history/experience behind everything that could not possibly be expressed in a small blog entry/email so that everyone could understand. It's a bizarre forum, really. Yes, there are a few misunderstandings, but we all generally get along well. (A lot better than the MMB I remember! Is it still like that?)
lol sorry sweet p, just musing, i was guilty of assuming they didn't really get on too, and yeah it's an odd forum, but I thinkto some extent it's the same misunderstandings as when say you talk to a work colleague about stuff butthey don't socialise with you out of work,they nly hear snippetsofyour relationship withsomeone, the very good, or very bad, and don't understand the whole dynamic. The MMB on the rare occasions i drop in still seems to be a mix of fluff and drama, i don't really go any more.
The MMB is still full of junk and mostly boring topics.
I did want to be in the wedding (although I'm starting to rethink that after all the shit - HA!). I'm honored that she asked me to be in the wedding.
I don't think I've expressed everything about the wedding and the surrounding situation that well. I think she's jumping into this wedding blindly, but you can't tell her that, she's stubborn and will not listen to opposing viewpoints (she knows she does this, but still does it). I'm going to support her in her wedding because she's my friend, but I'm realizing that there are some boundaries that need to be set.
Carly - I totally understand what you were saying knowing what you knew about the situation. I wasn't offended by any means.
Thanks Toast for the encouragement :)
I hate her really.
xNx
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